Two Cities
by Anonymous
(Tampa, Fl)
I was diagnosed when I was 22 years old. I'm in the 16th year and I have experienced an array of emotions, from shame and depression to feelings of isolation and loneliness.
I have been married twice, I have three children and no one is infected. I'm currently divorced and I met a man I really like. We live in different states and I spent a weekend with him after a month of talking. No, we didn't have sex. The intimacy was good for me. When I arrived home he was saying how he was really attracted to me and was disappointed we didn't have sex. I used this as an opportunity to tell him why.
Needless to say after that he didn’t call as regularly as he used to. But we have discussed it a little and he said he wanted to research it. I don't want to lose him but he is afraid of having sex with me now. It's hard to take, because I'm still the same person I was before I told him....I guess it's just not meant to be but I won't give up on finding true love no matter how I want to....my faith keeps me sane.
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Dear Anonymous,Thank you for sharing your story with us.
You are one brave woman to have
“The Talk”, and be open and honest this early on in the relationship.
If he can’t accept you for who you are, then maybe you’re better off without him anyway.
But if he does, then that shows that he truly cares for you and you're on your way to happiness.
For now, give him some space to process this revelation.
Trust me, there is love after herpes.
Keep the faith. God bless.
Gary----------------------------------------------------------------