Living with Herpes-2...I mean LIVING

Hi everyone...I have HSV-2 and I share my story because I want to give hope and take a little weight off your shoulders. I found out I am living with herpes-2 a year and half ago. I was devastated. I remember thinking my life was over. No one will ever want me. Why couldn't they just tell me I have cancer...it was a death sentence at the time. I remember the silence in the Drs office...and then my hyperventilating. It was by far the WORST day of my life. I contracted it from a man who I had trusted. I had the classic primary outbreak...you name it I had it. I was so sick and emotionally a mess. I drove to a spot overlooking the ocean (no I wasn't suicidal but I did think about dying) and curled up in a ball in my car...I wailed for hours. Hopeless, empty and alone.

Fast forward to today. I spent many months thinking I WAS herpes...I wasn't that smart, fun loving, compassionate, kind, hard worker or daughter, sister, aunt, friend or coworker. I was herpes. It is only recently that I now have accepted that herpes does not define me...it does not make me any less of a person. I have a lot to offer someone who will accept me for who I am not reject me for something I got.

The "talk" continues to be on my mind. I

don't have the same sexual freedom as my peers. I believe now however that the HSV-2 diagnosis helps me to find people who are interested in ME and not just for sex. I don't engage in casual sex because I want to get to know someone and feel ok with having the "talk" if things progress. I also believe being forced to hold out on sex allows potential partners to get to know the REAL ME...not the woman with an STD.

Sure I have my bad days when I wish I could be living without herpes, but that is not possible. It will not kill me, it really is just a nuisance at times.

I take medication everyday to keep the outbreaks away because I was having frequent outbreaks. Since starting this my perspective has shifted because I am not constantly reminded by outbreaks that I am living with herpes.

So I want you to take from this...that you are not herpes...herpes does not define who you are nor does it have to control you. Unfortunately society does not understand what herpes really is...it's not dirty, it's very common, it's manageable and does not reflect in anyway what kind of person you are.

I am not dying from herpes. I am living with herpes. And by living I do not mean I am merely existing I mean I am living life...and herpes can not take that away from me.

;)

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Mar 15, 2016
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Mar 13, 2016
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Feb 24, 2016
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Sep 03, 2015
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Apps that help
by: Anonymous

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Aug 11, 2015
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2015 Best Herpes dating sites reviews
by: Anonymous

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Jul 07, 2015
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My herbal regimen works!
by: Anonymous

I too was consumed devastated when I found out I had herpes without having sex...I got sores in my nose and inside my mouth...evidently after having a misfortune of kissing someone on the fourth date.
My doctor informed me that close to 70% of population nowadays have herpes without even knowing it.
I was having breakouts while taking Valtrex and using rinse, then I researched and came across herbal treatment with L-lysine 1000 mg taken away from food with Red Marin Algae. It saved me from embarrassing and painful sores. Even after dermatologist froze some pre-cancerous spot on my lip and gave me prescription for Valtrex as it certain sure triggers the outbreaks.
I just decided to stay on my herd regimen and sure enough IT WORKED! I got both products at Vitamin shop. L-lysine is Solgar brand.

Jun 03, 2015
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what other herbal remedies
by: Anonymous

I had been diagnosed with Herpes 1 and 2 present in my mouth and nose.
After few dates a nab kissed me on my mouth- few weeks later I got sore spots in my nose and then- my mouth.
Yes, one can get genital herpes in the mouth without intercourse...Apparently man I was dating had been engaged in oral sex....
I am getting outbreaks while taking meds and using prescription rinse.
Question to Roger- what other herbal meds you have been using.
It is still very new to me and I am consumed with that every moment of the day.

Nov 24, 2014
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thank u
by: Anonymous

Hello Living With Herpes! Ur story has been truly been aspiring! Thank u for posting such helpful thoughts n ur journey with this "virus"... it has truly made me rethink how I can go on n move on from this... again thank u n God Bless :-)

I wish there was a way I could possibly tlk to u as a one on one.

Sep 11, 2014
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What Now
by: Worried and Scared

I admire that you all are comfortable and accepting Herpes. I am young, very young and as of today I found out I am young with herpes. Even while typing this i am just devastated. Like most of you stated... not enough words can explain how I feel right now. I don't know my next step and I'm scared to take the next step. I am alone. I want to be happy and I know it will take time, but how much time?

Sep 08, 2014
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Me too :)
by: Anonymous

Girl, I feel ya. I found out I have herpes 1 about a month ago. I think it is awesome you can actually share with people how it felt. I actually just started doing the same thing (if you want to read it, it is at http://herpeshappens.co)

But yeah. Herpes sucks. I am still in the stage of constantly thinking about it. Every time I talk to a new guy I keep thinking "when do I have to tell him? Is there ever a right time?"

Well thank you :)

Aug 30, 2014
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Herpes Dating
by: Cara Blak

Nice experience and a good thing to share with all Herpes people. They have their life and they have the rights to live accordingly. There are also many herpes dating site to find love for them. I have a very good site for them to share. This is absolutely free for dating and also promotes herpes awareness.

Aug 25, 2014
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Ugh
by: Anonymous

How do I have "the talk" with someone that I'm in a serious relationship with. It's so hard. I feel like shit.

Jul 20, 2014
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What test did you get?
by: Anonymous

This is to answer from the comment above... I just got two conflicting LAN results a week apart one with neg for hsv1/2,and one with positive HSV 1 and 2 ... I am scared out of my mind at the moment and the test is IgG ... So the HSV 2 is less than 3 and read on the web it might be false positive so I will go and use western blot test... Have you done that? If not, I highly recommend. Even if the test comes back positive you don't lose anything.

Anyways, going back to the situation, I can understand her fears of not wanting to catch anything as we all would consider if given the choice. But I have to believe if she really love you and you are careful, she still can be safe. I am new at this and I sincerely hope this lady or the woman of your dream would love you enough... If not, just think about it, you may have avoided a bad outcome anyways. There is no guarantees in life... If she can't accept who you are than you will find someone who can. Hope all works out for you.... The Lord is good!

Jul 01, 2014
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cured
by: Anonymous

Hi there,

Just wanted to let people know there is a possibility of being cured. I had genital herpes 3 years ago and tried two herbs being astralagus and another one. I've now had no outbreaks for more than 12 months, I've had 4 blood tests that are all negative and the Doctor can't explain it but says its true but to be careful as there are other strains of genital herpes apparently. Anyway happy to help ppl with further details as I think I'm one of the only ppl cured from it.

Roger

Jun 25, 2014
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I only wish
by: Anonymous

I just met the woman of my dreams I wanted to make sure I had nothing. I am 49 now and I have never noticed anything. I was married for 20 years and did not transmit anything to her. Well I was just told I have Herpes and looking back when I was 18 or 19, I remember having what I thought was pimples on my genitals that is when I believe this is when I caught it. I have only been with 3 women since I was 20.

I told the woman I fell in love with yesterday that I have herpes at first it was shock a lot of crying and now she is trying to figure out what to do. To be honest, I wish they had told me I have 2 days to live. Just the thought of loosing her to this is more than I can even bear. It is pushing me to the brink. I hope my story ends like yours but I really have my doubts.

I am not trying to be negative. I know if it was the other way around and she told me I would be OK with it as I know I could not even think of not being with her. But now I am forced to look at the cold hard truth that she may reject me now due to this. Only time will tell.

I have been through a lot in my life. I mean a lot. I was sexually molested as a child, alcoholism, drug addiction, I am even gifted with bipolar, PTSD, and a couple of other mental health issues. I have striven and have overcome all of these......but this is totally different right now I am a lost for words. All I can do is pray and right now I do not even know if that is enough.

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