It's Not The End of The World if You Have Herpes

This website really helped me which is why I wish to give others the same. I was first diagnosed about a week ago with herpes. Before I even went to the doctor, I was pretty sure I knew exactly what it was, although I was lucky enough to have an extremely mild outbreak.

It was definitely a shock and I was pretty upset- it was even harder because I didn't have anyone to talk to, and the doctor was less than supportive to say the least. You never know why this happens or really who for sure gave it to you. Most people have no idea they have it. This STD is unfortunate, but not the end of the world.

One of four women have herpes, and one of five men also have it. I had just started a relationship when I discovered this surprising news and was so scared to lose this amazing guy.

All I could think of was hiding it from him so he wouldn't leave me because of it. I knew I had to tell him eventually BEFORE we engaged in ANY sexual activity. I confessed to him what I had while expecting the worst. He was completely okay with it and told me we would just have to be careful. When you find Mr. or Mrs. Right, they will accept you for you and not judge you on something so insignificant.

Take the suppression pill and you rarely have outbreaks (like one a year). One pill every day for twenty dollars a month and you will live a pretty normal life. Don't give up! You are still you and not defined by this small obstacle. I really hope I gave anyone who took the time to read this some confidence in themselves and their newly discovered situation.

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Nov 02, 2015
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Feeling marked, unloveable,dirty.
by: Anonymous

I don't have my results but I'm almost certain it's the big bad Herp. I've been in a faithful relationship with this great guy for 5 months and just now this appears?!!!! Wtf? Did he give it or did I?? I'm confused and do depressed!!! I don't want to lose the man I love but I guess if I do he's not much of a man if he's gonna bail when time get tough. I want to be positive but I just feel so much shame. I feel like I'm damaged goods.😞

Sep 16, 2013
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It's Alright
by: Anonymous

Hi There

I'm a twenty year old recently moved in student from the UK and have been informed by a nurse this morning that I most likely have Genital Herpes. I moved in this Saturday just gone and yes I'm pretty sure everyone will assume I've been sleeping around and that's how I contracted it but I haven't even been out yet and it's Monday, so everyone can quit the stigma, ok?

The initial reaction was denial because I thought 'this just could NOT happen to me' even if she said it was very common. I was absolutely TERRIFIED.

It started with tenderness "down there" and I thought I had cystitis (water infection) it was excruciatingly painful and made me cry with the degree of sensitivity when going to the toilet.

I feel really alone and it's pretty hard to be stuck in your bed feeling like death (because of flu-like symptoms) and your flat is partying like crazy.

I've told the guy I've been seeing about this possibility and so far he's very understanding. Although I've not been diagnosed I know in my heart it is Herpes and it makes me so mad that some people don't even have the decency or the respect to tell you before they give you such a life changing condition. But from reading this website it's made me stronger knowing I've got support. It will get better.

Jul 31, 2013
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Take a deep breath- it'll be ok
by: Anonymous

First off, I know you're in pain. Know that it will pass. I suggest getting together with a doctor and determining the best course of treatment. I would especially see him during the outbreak so he can take samples to determine the antibody level in your system.

Next- live a healthier lifestyle. This includes keeping your immune system up. This includes eating a little better and exercising. This includes lowering stress. I highly recommend a support group- be it online or in person so you can not have a pent up feeling of being alone or living with a secret (more stressful).

Finally, and most importantly. Love yourself. This isn't your fault. It says nothing about you as a person. IT DOES NOT DEFINE YOU. It's a skin rash. Yes, it's an inconvenience, but it's a minor one in the grand scheme of life.

You will be ok. And you will live. And you'll learn to live a healthier, happier and more honest lifestyle. I know at this moment it doesn't seem it- but in a way I'm glad this happened. I met someone who accepted me totally (shes herpes negative) and without concern as to this minor issue. We exercise caution but we live a fun life together and I learned- she'll stick with me even with the bad.

So you may discover the ones who disengage when you tell them- you saved yourself the problem of learning their true colors when something bigger comes along in your life. Hang in there. We're all here with you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.