I'm 21 years old, and I have recently been diagnosed with HSV 1. I gave a guy I had been talking to oral. We had been talking for a month, and he said he was clean and had been tested. He either lied or he doesn't know. Well, I found out only a few days ago, even though all that happened 2 months ago. Three days after it happened my lip was tingly and became swollen, but it went away so I thought nothing of it. It wasn't until recently when I noticed a bump on my lip that I thought something was wrong. I was right. I took myself to the doctor and had to hear the terrible news.

I was terrified and didn't know how I was going to tell my bf. We haven't even been dating a month, but to my surprise he has been extremely supportive. He said it doesn't and won't change his opinion of me. Herpes is something you get, not who you are. It is just a skin rash caused by a virus, I did nothing wrong and neither did you. I still feel angry with myself and I feel disgusting, but my boyfriend doesn't look at me differently or think any differently of me. So, I'm not going to, and neither should you. Just be honest with people, and eventually there will be a man who understands it wasn't your fault.

Thank you Gary. Unfortunately I had tested positive and now have HSV 2. I informed my current boyfriend and he left me. It crushed me. It made me feel as if I am no good to no one.